The Spiritual Blame Game

We have spent a considerable amount of time and space, on this blog, encouraging and challenging believers pertaining to their relationship with Yeshua.  While this topic remains our highest priority, I want to discuss another extremely important relationship with you. 

If you have been married for any length of time (more than one hour) you have probably had disagreement with your spouse.  These disagreements take on a sinister nature when there are spiritual overtones.  As believers, we have a tendency to personify the attitude: "If he/she were as spiritual as I am, there would be no argument here!"  What would happen if we carried into this extremely important relationship the belief that our spouse is just as close to their Messiah as you are?  In other words, disagreements happen when both parties are in right relationship with our Creator! 

In counseling many married couples through the years a principle has risen to the top of rules for believers.  That principle:  NEVER use the Word of Yahuweh against each other!

The Bible teaches that the Word is a weapon (see Hebrews 4:12) and most times when it is used to prove a point in an argument, it will cause irreparable damage to the relationship.  Our lives are governed by scriptural principle, therefore preaching to our spouse can be perceived as "hitting below the belt."  If I use scripture against my wife, I have become the voice of the Holy Spirit to her...a role I could not possibly fulfill.  It is far better to trust the Almighty to get His word across to your spouse.  After all, it is His Word. 

A couple of years ago, my child bride and myself were at an impasse.  I was shocked to come to the realization that BOTH of us were praying fervently about our situation.  We were BOTH seeking our Father's will.  We simply had a disagreement that we were taking from the natural (carnal) realm into the spiritual.  When we dealt with the problem where it originated (our own wants and desires) the solution was ridiculously simple.  It became a relatively easy matter of communication rather than an eternal problem. 

I believe it is a devious trap of the enemy of our souls to get us to spiritualize our petty problems.  Our Loving Heavenly Father has given us a brain to use.  Using it to further our interpersonal relationships is also furthering His Kingdom!

 

Shalom