The Masculinazation of Love?

Is it possible that, at least to a small degree, we men have fallen into the same trap that we are complaining about with our wives? Could it be that we bear some responsibility here?

Of course, the answer is a resounding YES! It is a characteristic of human nature that whenever we are under pressure (of any kind) we revert to a “former lifestyle”. Allow me to explain:

When installing plumbing into a new construction project and before final inspection, the plumbing must pass a “pressure test”. A pressure gauge is installed, compressed air is put into the pipes, and the pipes must hold that amount of compressed air for a specified amount of time. When there is a leak, it ALWAYS occurs at the ‘place of least resistance’. Whatever is inside the pipe will come out at the weakest point.

The “former lifestyle” mentioned above comes into play here. When pressure is applied, we naturally retreat to a place of comfort and/or habit. We are not compelled to change our behavior until we perceive that the place we are trying to attain will be more comfortable than the place we currently are in. We will only take on new employment when we perceive that more money will make us more comfortable. We make purchases, move the furniture in our homes, and even change the channel on our TVs based on this concept. We will never change our behavior concerning our interpersonal relationships UNTIL we perceive that change will bring us more comfort. (OK, if the word comfort makes you feel selfish, you can use the word PEACE in its place.)

Scripture tells us, “Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”. (Matthew 12:34). In other words, “If it wasn’t in the pipes, it wouldn’t leak out!” As human beings, we are created to “leak” a little. The leaks serve to show us (and those around us) what is inside.

The “masculinization” of love tries to fix the leak, even when that leak may be extremely important to the well being of your relationship. Our wives will thrive when we allow them to share emotions, ideas, and especially intellect with us. Learn to embrace her intellectual contribution to your relationship.

My bride and I, when combining our I.Q.s are an extremely intelligent unit, created in our Father’s image!

Shalom